Motherhood: A Little Jewelry + A Little Self Care
I stopped by Kohl's on Sunday night to check out their tax free sale they had going on this weekend. Department stores are scary for me. So many options, so many racks, not enough time, not enough patience. Add a baby to that mix and goodness it's overwhelming. Thankfully, I strolled in about an hour and a half to closing, baby was napping and I could just relax. Anyways this post delves a little deeper than just the material.
The truth is, I have been neglecting myself. Anyone else right there with me? I make up excuses: saving, baby, busy, blog bla bla bla. But the truth is and I can just hear it echoing right now, a tiny little obnoxious voice in my head "you're letting yourself go!" eek. I can hear it, I can feel it, but for the most part I ignore it. And it is the simple things: taking myself out for a walk, getting in the word, journaling, finding the time to de-stress, taking a long bath, reading a book...doing the things that I enjoy, the things that help me build relationship with ME. It's almost like I don't know myself intimately anymore because I haven't yet figured out the balance between caring for others and caring for myself. I believe new and seasoned mothers deal with this all the time.
I wake up, feed the baby, cook the breakfast, run the errands, clean the house...go go go without stopping once to reflect on how I am doing today. Self-care is also self-honor and you do not have to be entirely indulgent to take a few moments out of your day to do something that makes you visible again, something that acknowledges the fact that you're here too and that you matter. So my husband, bless his soul, noticed this and instead of giving me a lecture this time on how I need to "live" he took me shopping (LOL i know it sounds superficial but it was so cute because I haven't been OUTSIDE shopping (with other humansss!) in a while) I couldn't ask questions and I couldn't reject it. But don't be like me. Don't wait on someone else to take care of you. Do it yourself, because you matter.
I came home that evening put my bags down, put one of my fave candles on, had a glass of wine, turned up the music (after the baby went to bed) and INDULGED in some (really underwhelming) sushi lol. But I enjoyed MYSELF, I communed with MYSELF and there, with that simple gesture I felt present and visible and maybe just then I was beginning to get my groove back. Mamas, self care is NOT optional. Don't guilt yourself out of it, your family needs the you that feels her best.
Check out my haul below and don't be afraid to shop the looks, because they won't break your bank!